by Nicole Serafin, Woman, Wife, Mother, Pharmacy Reception, Tintenbar, NSW, Australia
Each one of us has a purpose, a role in life and for each woman that will look different.
In the past it was common for women to stay at home with the sole purpose of looking after and raising a family. It was unheard of having a job, let alone that which was of equal stature to that held by men.
Somewhere along the line we were led to believe that this was our sole purpose and that we were not here to be more than that which we were already living; a wife, housewife, mother, sister, friend, companion …
If we look at women’s rights and the equality we have fought so hard to achieve, one would think that we have evolved tremendously. But have we really?
- Have we truly evolved in the sense of what it means to be a woman?
- Have we held onto our vulnerability and tenderness – which are natural qualities of what a woman is and represents?
- Do we still honour ourselves in that tenderness, gentleness and vulnerability or have we as a society neither supported nor encouraged women to be all that they are?
- At what point did we as women decide that we had to have it all and could do it all?
- Is that truly what our sole purpose in life is – to be indestructible?
Yes, it is possible to have it all so to speak, but having it all means nothing if we are not first and foremost the true women that we are.
Is it possible that we have chosen to live in a way that is a mere shadow of the glory that we are?
Have we been choosing not to express our true beauty and glory?
But has there ever been a knowing, a feeling that there had to be more? A natural impulse from within that knows how great we are and that our sole purpose and our role in society is much greater than any accomplishments.
All women have within the same essence – the essence of love. To reflect that love we need to return to being and living in fullness without holding back any part of us. It is super important that we allow ourselves to feel our true essence and to come back to the simplicity of life, so that we can reflect to others that there is another way of being, that there is more to life than what is already being lived.
Instead of seeking fulfilment from outside of us how about we allow ourselves to deeply connect to that which lies inside. As an analogy – it is like putting sellotape around a rose bud and in doing so we are not allowing it to blossom into the most magnificent rose it already is.
It is our purpose to live and reflect the gentleness, vulnerability, fragility and love – our natural qualities – in all that we do. By choosing to reflect this our lives become simpler; it creates a certain easy flow, not only within but around us too. It creates an allowing for us to feel what is needed in each moment without the chaos and confusion.
A woman is naturally fragile and vulnerable. What happens if we stop and take note to see whether we are living in a way that supports that vulnerability and fragility or not?
There is a general thinking amongst women that to be this way is weak, that we leave ourselves open to being hurt if we express or reveal any of these qualities. To go back to the rose analogy – is the rose in its full bloom weak? Delicate yes, and tender too, but weak – no.
What if these qualities are not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength? Creating a strength within to not hold back and to express when something is not ok if a situation is causing harm or unrest in self or another.
If we expressed and lived in such a manner, is it possible that a greater harmony amongst women (and men) could be achieved? That there would be no bad feelings held in and allowed to build up and fester. That there would be no words spoken with resentment and hurt but instead words spoken with the gentleness and love that we are and live. Could it be that by choosing to live in the fullness and the glory that we are, we have the ability to show others how glorious they are too? Could this be our role in society today and our true purpose?
In truth, it is love that is our main purpose in life. Let our true purpose in life be all that we are, and allow the beauty and glory that resides within to shine out for all to see and feel.