Is saying “Yes” the only way to accepting another person in love?
Recently I met a man. It is pure joy every time we meet. We have a lot in common and our conversations are always deepening each other, and yet I said “No” to this relationship.
I did not say “No” to this man, only to the picture of how a relationship is supposed to look, such as the whirlwind, the intensity, the sweeping someone off their feet, as all of that felt imposing, even though it is supposed to be what love looks like.
In the human point of view, this takes a bit of getting used to, as I deeply care for him and appreciated his care for me. But what would love do in such a situation?
Love would only be loving, so I deepened first and foremost even more of the love and care I have for myself.
I observed every feeling in my body and appreciated its deep sensitivity. I said “No” to choices and thoughts that left me not feeling myself, observing when I listen and when I do not and why. I allowed myself the space to feel and express deeper and appreciated myself every step of the way. I became more real with myself.
Human connection and intimacy feels natural in our hearts, and it is normal to want to share this quality deeply with another human being.
And yet how often do we as women compromise what we know to be true in need for a more superficial connection and intimacy?
As a woman I have done that myself, but then in reality what I have chosen is attachment and not love, and yet it is never too late to change this.
I did say “No” to what felt imposing, but there was no rejection towards this man nor did we stop communicating, in fact, when I honoured myself and my choices, there was much more space for appreciation and for our communication to go deeper.
There was no picture or security to follow, simply a surrendering to expressing anything that came up between us. I saw so much love in this man and he saw the love in me.
In truth, we are reflecting back to each other the love we carry within us.
If I take the first step and not hold back in expressing this love to myself as well to everyone else in life, then love expands in every moment and it can only become our ‘normal’ one day. This may take a while to happen but saying, “Yes” to love and living this choice unwaveringly is the only way for true relationship to become our ‘normal’ way of life once again.
By A.L.
For More Inspiration:
Dianne Trussell expands our awareness of what is Divine Marriage – Commitment and Knowing True Love.
In this short video Annette and Gabe beautifully share and demonstrate from their own relationship how important it is to ‘have each others back’ and support one another to raise the level of how we can express clearly and lovingly.
Listen to Serge Benhayon presenting How Men and Women Avoid Being the Love That They Are